We often hear the term “new normal” used in describing lifestyle changes resulting from the COVID-19 pandemic. However, those words are familiar to cancer patients. Max Lerner, in his memoir Wrestling with Angels wrote, “I felt split into two selves; one, the sick...

A pioneer in defining the role of medical humanist; Ms. Bandman is a writer, co-founder of the Center for Communication in Medicine and co-author of CCM’s signature tool, SpeakSooner®: A Patient’s Guide to Difficult Conversations.
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Finding Our Strength
“In times of crisis we summon our strength... call on every resource...every forgotten image... every memory that can make us know our power.” - Muriel Rukeyser How does one live with uncertainty when facing a life-threatening illness? Where does one find inner...
Transforming Medical Crisis into Opportunities to Find Meaning in One’s Life
The Center for Communication in Medicine, which I am a founder, decided that our next SpeakSooner Community Education Program on October 26 in Bennington would focus on the theme of transforming a medical crisis into an opportunity to find meaning and joy in one’s...
Who is This Doctor at My Bedside?
Recently, a friend went to the emergency room with complaints of severe GI pain and was admitted to the hospital. Naturally, she was worried about the cause of her symptoms, which she had been experiencing on and off for 6 months. Under the care of her family doctor...
Do They Know What I Am Thinking?
Always interested in receiving feedback about the "Difficult Conversations Toolkit", a patient asked me if I would read what she had written. “I am unsure,” she said, “of how I have structured it.” “I’d be pleased to read what you have written,” I said. As I often...
Quality of Life – We All Want It But What Is It?
In Man’s Search for Meaning Victor Frankl said, “The quest for meaning is central to the human condition, and we are brought in touch with a sense of meaning when we reflect on that which we have created, loved, believed in or left as a legacy.” On August 30 the...
Living With Uncertainty Punctuated
Recently I was asked if I had read “The Well-Tempered Sentence: A Punctuation Handbook for the Innocent, the Eager and Doomed” by Karen Elizabeth Gordon. I confessed that I often ignore the rules of punctuation. My penchant is for the ellipsis, which has been...
PRESCRIBING E-MAIL
As the year 2017 is coming to a close and a new year is approaching I find myself thinking about what has passed and what’s to come. Today, I am catapulted back in time—to 2002 when one of the oncology nurses at Southwestern Vermont Regional Cancer Center introduced...
RECORDING VISITS REVISITED
A colleague recently forwarded a New York Times article, “The Appointment Ends. Now The Patient is Listening." The author Paula Span notes new efforts to help patients understand their health status by recording appointments. I have often been asked about how...
“It’s Treatable, But Not Curable”
I recently spoke with two physicians about what patients understand the words “treatable” and “incurable” to mean. Drs. John Hearst and Carol Tunney were interviewing me for their radio show, “Natural Instincts,”which is about “Health, Healing and Conscious Living.”...

